RIP, Big Sam

Two years ago today my old man hung himself by the neck.  I find that as time goes by I miss him more and more.  I forget the things that were infuriating about him, and think mostly about his big generous heart.  This year it’s particularly sad for me, because I’m in the process of building myself two new shops.. one for metal work, and one for wood.  There’s no one that I can think of who would have been more gung ho and interested in the whole process than Bill Sam.  I’m a pretty decent fabricator, and the whole learning process began in his shop..  I didn’t learn FROM him as much as I learned NEAR him.  He had a sneaky way of teaching.  He’d set you up in such a way that you’d discover things on your own.  He didn’t want any credit.  I think he just took great pleasure in quietly watching us learn.  My older brother, Zach, spoke at his funeral, and said something that summed it up perfectly.  “We were amazing, because he was amazed.”

There are many things that I can be upset with him about, not the least of which was his inability, or maybe unwillingness to treat the depression that ultimately killed him.  I’d like it if he was still around!  On the anniversary of his death, however, I choose to focus on the things that I admired about him.  Generosity, warmth, charisma, open-mindedness, and great big love for just about everyone who crossed his path and whose favorite insult was “he’s got NO imagination!!” These are all things about the man that I aspire to.

Sleep well, Bill Sam.

14 Responses to “RIP, Big Sam”

  1. Seamus

    זיכרונו לברכה

  2. April

    “On the anniversary of his death, however, I choose to focus on the things that I admired about him. Generosity, warmth, charisma, open-mindedness, and great big love for just about everyone who crossed his path…”

    Remembering our lost loved ones for their best qualities, a great sentiment. Take care and RIP Bill Sam.

  3. Jennie

    He was totally amazed by his kids and it was an awesome thing to see. You’re in my thoughts today as always, Ez. Thinking happy thoughts of happy times. Rest well, Bill Sam.

  4. Valancy Jane

    I’m not surprised he was amazed by you.

  5. kendall

    a beautiful commemoration,
    you’ve got a way with words my friend.
    thinking of you guys,
    X

  6. maggie

    have a fantastic memory of sleeping out in some clubhouse or loft or something with you at his house when we were kids…..and that great wolf dog he had. <3

  7. holly

    I have no doubt that his list of qualities he admired about you would be endless. Wishing you happy memories and better days.

  8. tearful dishwasher

    Ezra-

    It’s my firm belief that we are put here on this shithole to love each other, love with a fierce and abiding intensity, and that all else is secondary. Well, except for the sheer joy of eating and cooking good food and making beautiful things with our hands.

    I applaud you, brother. I stand up on my table and clap and clap and clap for you.

    You are my hero.

    I love you and there’s nothing you can do about that.

    yrs-

    tearful

  9. Daniel

    Ezra, I had no idea.

    You are so amazing and brave.

  10. Ivanna

    Beautifully said.

  11. Claire Williamson (Hall)

    Wow…Ezra…he was amazed by u because u r amazing. Beautifully said…wonderful way with words and his memory will live on in the wonderful things u r about to do!
    Much love to u.
    Cxx

  12. Sandra (Sanliaka from Flickr)

    Dear Ezra,
    read your lines I know one thing: his character is still alive… in YOUR character!

    I know how it sense if a beloved man commit suicide.

    Sandra

  13. Patrick Larson

    My dad died 2 years ago on May 24th. Prostate cancer. Fucking sucks. I’m glad you’re here with us still Ezra.

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